How often do you Compare your Child with Others?

We often say every child is different but do we really mean it?  In general, most of the parents compare their children frequently with others than they even realize it. So, how often do you compare your child with others?

It’s an inborn human nature to get the best out of things in our lives; be it sooner or later. And as a parent, that need becomes even more vigorous.

This need for the perfection starts from the birth of our child. We begin to compare our child with others based on the normality of the child and then it goes on forever.

Is my baby normal? Why isn’t it doing this and that? What’s wrong with my baby? My neighbour’s baby is already smiling, my sister’s baby is already eating on her own, my friend’s baby is already standing on her own and many more.

Trust me, these comparisons do not simply end there. It goes on until its adversely affect us by putting the veil on our eyes to notice the little achievements of our child that can be quite unique than others.

I know it’s quite difficult when you’re living in a community where people often pass comments quite easily. The race to reach the child’s milestone at a certain age becomes a hot topic in every parent discussions.

It indirectly frustrates the family and the small child who hasn’t even been able to speak properly.

It put on a pressure for those little feet to run when it hasn’t been able to walk properly, a pressure to eat varieties of food when it hasn’t been able to differentiate the taste of the food yet and to sleep on its own when it hasn’t learned to separate from the warmth of a mother.

Therefore, any sensible adult should be sensible enough to think before passing any comments without knowing the family and the child’s behaviour. They should not pressurize any parents to fit in a certain category that seems normal to them.

However, the comparisons are always there, be it from the professionals like doctors or the closer ones like our family members and friends.

The developmental charts like height, weight, growth of the child always remind us of our child’s development compared to the normal ones.

So, subconsciously, the comparison is always there but we should know where it is coming from. If it’s coming from the people who always want good for your children like professionals and your own family and close friends, then it’s your choice to accept it or not.

Their concern should not impact you and your way of parenting. You must have the ability to listen to them and implement the one that is best for your child.

However, if you are being pressurized and compared in an unhealthy way then you have the choice to say “STOP” and not listen to them at all. You are a parent and you have the right to choose what is best for your child.

So, don’t pressure your child to be in a certain way that the society wants it to be. These benchmarks should not affect you or your child’s future.

At this point, the conclusion remains the same “Every child is different”; its the Universal truth and we should mean it with all our heart and soul.

Thank you.

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